The One Thing Standing in Your Way

GGA Mental Game Coach

Back in February of this year, I wrote about an essential mental game dynamic: expectation. You can check it out that blog post here.

Over the years, I have come to realize that in the human performance space, the one thing standing in your way most often is the expectation.

(I’m super-excited about our 2-Day Mental Game School coming up in Chicago in a few weeks – only a couple spots left – because we are going to transform golf games through a new understanding of expectation!)

The reason it is so important to understand is that playing great golf requires that you can execute shots as you plan them, (the physical part of the game) and that you stay connected to your potential in any moment (the mental game).

What does that mean? It means that you must be able to hit the shots you want to AND maintain productive performance energy (mental mindset) when things don’t go as planned.

On the golf course, we often expect to be able to hit shots like we’ve beaten them previously – or that we imagine them; flush, high, long, straight, etc. But there is a problem with holding tightly to expectations:

From the February 2018 article.

We get stuck in our expectations when we carry our expectations into our experiences, the only way we can be satisfied is if those expectations were met. (Makes sense…right? )

But if our expectations are not met then what happens? You guessed it: disappointment, anger, – or even worse: obvious frustration.

In many ways, expectations are the ONE THING standing in your idea of high performance on the course.

What to do? Learn to leave your expectations in the car. You don’t need them on the course. Believe me.

Learn to understand what it feels like to have goals and objectives, and yet at the same time have ZERO expectations about what will happen. (This is what Moe often referred to as an Alert Attitude of Indifference.)

The result: a sense of freedom, passion, joy, and enjoyment that allows you to stay connected to your capacity to perform at your BEST.

Paul Monahan, PCC is a Peak-Performance coach, member of the International Coach Federation and a certified COR.E Performance Dynamicsä  Specialist. He resides in Cleveland, Ohio with his wife Paula and is the proud dad to three young men. He works with elite-level performers and leaders, helping them to expand their awareness so that they perform at their best more consistently.


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Paul Monahan

Paul Monahan

I have been very fortunate to have enjoyed a 25-year sales and marketing career at some of the most recognizable brand-name organizations in North America. And along the way, I have met and worked with some incredible mentors and leaders whose impact is still with me today. Throughout my career, I have maintained a couple key philosophies: First: Treat People Honestly, and Fairly. Second: The best way to succeed is to find out what OTHERS need…and SERVE their interests FIRST. Through the joys of victory, and in the disappointments of defeat, my experiences, training and observations have shaped me into the LEADER and CREATOR I am today. In my business, my family, my community and my LIFE.

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